The Magic of the Approach


The Magic of the Approach

Have you ever seen a magician at a party walking around doing
close-up magic? Everyone seems fascinated by it - even if the
magician isn't that good.

There are probably just as many people
hoping the performer will flop as those that are fascinated by
it.
This brings me to an interesting way to approach women - by
using magic.
Many guys will hang around an old haunt looking at all the great
women come and go, but will never actually approach them. If they
do approach someone, it's usually after having watched her for
quite a while, built up their courage (or drank enough of it) and
then they approach.

These guys also often fail simply because they
don't have a good ice-breaker - or any real game for that
matter.
The benefit of learning a few magic tricks is that it both gives
you a reason to approach someone and acts as the ice-breaker, all
at once. It doesn't even matter if you're good at it or not! Most
people will feel badly for you if the trick doesn't go well and let
you off the hook saying, "Well, at least you tried!"
In fact, you did. That's the point of this approach.

You put
yourself out there and took a small risk. If you remember my
article from last week, "The Three Keys to the Approach",
(.com/articles.asp?id=467) you'll remember how
important it is to stay positive, confident and upbeat all while
putting yourself "out there".


What's really great about this approach is that it's the trick
itself that is "out there" - not you. Further, you don't have to
risk much as most everyone is interested in watching. You can
approach individual women or groups of people - it doesn't
matter.
I'm not going to get into a bunch of magic tricks here as there
are many good books on the subject.

You can just learn a few fun
ones and use them to approach anyone, anywhere.
Of course the magic is only the ice-breaker. You then need to be
able to carry it somewhere. You can't just make a coin disappear
and then ask for a phone number! That is a good way to make your
target disappear!
Instead, you have to establish some rapport once you've broken
the ice, but at least the ice is now broken and the transition
should be much easier.

Keep in mind that you can also use a few
magic tricks to build the rapport after the approach. Once you
start talking to someone and get the ball rolling, throwing in a
couple of magic tricks is a fun, safe way to draw in your
target.
Best regards.
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