Different approaches to sexual experience


Ever notice how men talk about 'having sex' while women talk about
'making love?' That kind of hits the nail on the head when it comes
to how men and women approach sex.

Men are pretty direct when it
comes to sex -- they are arounsed easily, usually by visual
stimulation, what they see. Women are much more complex, and
require a more complicated experience to become aroused and take
longer.
While that sounds simple, (and it is!) if you are going to
improve your sexual technique, you must keep it in mind
constantly.
So lets have a look at this 'more complicated experience,' and
see what we can learn.


Women enjoy sex with more of their senses, touch, smell, taste, and
hearing. Notice that I did NOT say sight. Women are aroused by
sight as well as the other senses, but this is secondary.
Women love things like 'taking your time', 'anticipation', and
'foreplay' because they make the experience richer and involve more
senses.


Lets look at a few of these in more detail:
1. Hearing. Women love to hear romantic sensual things. Notice
that is sensual not sexual language.

Women love love to hear you
describe your feelings. Men are more direct and want to hear things
like, "you are so big." Women like to hear things like, "your skin
is so soft."
2.

Touching. Women love to be touched and stroked. Stroking,
cuddling, and touching is all great stuff that arouses women.
Stroke her lightly with the tips of your fingers up and down her
body, avoiding sexual areas.

There will be lots of time for that
later! Build up tension and anticipation.
3. Smelling. This could be scented candles or inscense.

Women
love smelling and being smelled.
4. Tasting. Women love to be fed all kinds of wonderful things
like strawberries, sweets, and wine.


5. Sight. While generally women are not turned on by sight, most
women love to look into your eyes. This kind of ultra-romantic
stuff is a huge turn-on for most women.


6. Kissing. Kissing is a kind of touching. Our lips have tons of
nerve endings in them which is why contact with our lips feels
good.

Make kissing an experience instead of jumping right in with
your tongue! Lightly brush her lips with yours and then pull away.
Keep doing this 'brushing' contact, and you will excite the nerve
ending on both of your lips. Play with your lips lightly and
gently.
Remember when you were learning to drive? One of the first
things you learn is - don't gun the engine while its cold! Well sex
is just like that!

Robert Johanssen has written widely on sex, sexuality, couples,
relationships and singles.

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